Escorts & Hobbyists [Hookers & Johns]
The Idealized Escort [Sasha Grey]
Terms used in this article:Hobbyist: Someone who engages in the hobby (of hiring escorts), an escort's client. This term is favored by hobbyists, while law enforcement usual refers to the same people as "johns".
Escort: a companion for hire. here is often a sexual connotation.
Provider: A hobbyist's term for an erotic escort. Or sometimes other adult entertainers like massage parlor girls who provide erotic services.
Fact is, no one is on their game all the time. Every so often we all come across something we just kind of fuck up. It could be something totally new or something we’ve experienced a thousand times, it doesn’t matter. Everyone makes mistakes, no biggie.
Still, some situations can be a little awkward, weird or tragic if handled improperly. And with that in mind, let’s take a brief jaunt through some scenarios a hobbyist may one day find themselves, possibly through no fault of their own, and some potential ways to make it as painless as possible.
The Unwanted “Ride”
We’re not talking cowgirl here, the ride in question is when the lady of your interest is looking to take you for a ride. Or, more accurately, to fuck you in the least pleasant way possible.
Every profession has some bad seeds, so you always have to be cautious. As a recent story relayed in the forums about a retired man who had his first encounter with an escort and ended up being fleeced for $20,000 shows, scams are being run left, right and centre.
Hopefully you’ll only experience the more reputable ladies and by and large most are well adept at handling their business professionally, but who knows.
First and foremost, you need to keep your wits about you and remember one thing above all. You do not love her and she does not love you. Not now not ever.
The hobbyist/escort relationship is always business first. If you were in love, you would be taking her to meet mom and dad, not paying her to lick your balls. That said, the relationship has to exist within the confines of what you’re comfortable with.
If she asks you for a loan, that’s a good clue that you shouldn’t speak with her ever again. It doesn’t matter if she’s your all time favorite and you’ve seen her 40 times already. Nothing good comes from anyone taking this beyond a friendly business exchange.
The thing you need to watch out for is your own brain betraying you. When you’re horny and have a woman willing to do pretty much anything for you, your mind is as useful as pudding.
You’ll try to convince yourself it’s just one time, that you have a special relationship, maybe your friends, yadda yadda yadda.
If she’s professional she’ll never ask you for money. She can make money. You more than anyone should know that.
The Big O [Orgasm]
This is more related to that last point than you’d think. What do orgasms and loans have in common? Commitment.
This issue is tricky one and it really may depend on you, her and your perspective on just what you want out of your experience with an escort.
But the fact is, again, this is a business deal at the end of the day. You may want her to get off, or you may not care and in the end, neither of those choices is wrong.
Some men have this idea that, in order for the sex to be “complete” she needs to get off, but really, think critically here. You’re with a woman who may have been with 5 other men this week already.
Or more, depending on what she’s comfortable with. Some providers really enjoy what they do but some also put on a front. Hell, maybe she’s just having a bad day.
But this is her job and she’s doing it. Trying to make her cum is, in effect, a bit like loaning her that money. It’s not your responsibility here.
That may seem crass and sure it’s great if everyone gets off, but what’s your motivation for making her cum?
If it’s just par for the course for you, that’s awesome. Have at it. But if you think you owe it to her or she won’t be happy if you don’t make her cum, you need to take a step back and rethink the situation.
This is a woman who has sex for a living. Never forget that. At the end of the day, she doesn’t really need to get off, she needs to get you off. It’s her job. If you worked as a cook, would you expect customers to make you a burger in exchange for theirs?
Nice article, but I wonder why not trying to make her cum? First of all
you'll have a great experience in sexploration of women's hot zones and, at
least, you'll always have the chance that she won't take your money ;)
She'll make it for pleasure...
There is one girl who I know for a fact has a real orgasm when entertaining
some of her clients