Watersports

Although more properly called urolagnia, most people refer to this particular realm of sexual fetish as "golden showers".

As the name implies, the most common form such play takes is for one partner to urinate in such a way that the other partner can see and or feel the "golden shower" of urine.

Interestingly enough, many people regard golden showers as one of the most taboo of sexual acts, second only to sex play that specifically revolves around feces.

That is, they find it even kinkier and "dirtier" than bondage, rape fantasies, cum swallowing, and/or sticking a vibrating dildo up a loved one's arse.

Given the fact that urinating is a wholly natural and necessary activity (i.e. not the product of vice or perversion) and the fact that urine itself is virtually sterile, this seems like a rather bizarre attitude.

Of course most people don't realize just how clean the urine of a healthy individual really is.

Add to this the fact that most people were raised to believe you shouldn't look at another person when they are peeing -- because you would either see or at least imagine their naked genitals.

Genitals have to do with sex, and sex of course is very naughty indeed. As a result, getting involved with another person's peeing process can seem extremely "dirty".

After all, we have moral dirtiness combined with hygienic dirtiness. Together they equal the ultimate taboo. (Beat out only by 'shit' sex, which most people find the last straw. Could that be symptomatic of our repression [Freud would have a field day].

Inevitably, however, whenever people want to make sex a little spicier, they head right for the forbidden fruit. Getting pleasure from that which is naughty is a powerful act.

From earliest childhood we accumulate a growing list of things that we want to do -- because they are pleasurable or interesting -- that we are expressly forbidden to do because they are messy, dangerous, annoying, unhealthy, or morally prohibited -- according to someone else, usually a parent, teacher, or older sibling.

But as you might have noticed, indulging in such pleasures can be a real high.

While the specific blend of emotions varies from one person and situation to another, the underlying rush may stem from saying, "yes" to our authentic inner self.

That is, on some level, we are doing what we really believed was right, before we were socially conditioned to feel shame and fear.

What draws many to sexual kink is precisely this inner encounter.

That is, by dabbling in those activities or desires that were labeled as "bad", they can re-confront that desire or behavior from their current vantage point -- that is as a knowledgeable, confident adult -- and reassess the feelings and beliefs they have been dragging around from childhood.

The desired outcome is typically to embrace the disowned self and to experience the release and wellbeing that comes with forgiving and accepting what was once feared and denied.

But often even as we feel the rush, feel the pleasure, we also feel barely repressed uncertainty, anxiety, and perhaps even shame.

Unless we can truly change our belief structure and wholeheartedly believe that what we are doing is okay we will continue to be haunted by the judgments of others.

For some people, the shame is simply never overcome. And indulging in-- wallowing in -- the sense of shame and dirtiness becomes an end in itself.

Such behavior may provide a powerful, cathartic outlet for unresolved feelings. Or they may become part of a downward psychological spiral of personal degradation and destruction.

Of course, there are many people who engage in watersports with very little shame at all. Simply put, not everyone views pee as dirty and shameful. For some it is simply natural.

And the sensations (visual and sensual) that it creates are normal and innocent. For such people, there is none of the heavy pathos and psychological drama outlined above.

The goal is to become unencumbered by "silly" inhibitions so that they can more fully experience themselves in their sensual play.

But while most of us may readily acknowledge the innocent sensuality inherent in the warm, wet feeling of golden showers (and the playful curiosity that might be satisfied in finding out how someone else looks when they pee), we may find it harder to understand what all the fuss is really about.

Sure it might be interesting to have a pissing contest with your lover while romping about in the shower. But a couple repetitions of this and then so what.

Even the thrill of breaking social taboos, of overcoming inhibitions gets a bit blah after a while. So why the ongoing hubbub among pee fetishists?

Well, first there are certainly the reasons discussed above -- being "dirty" and "bad" and just getting stuck on the thrill of this.

But some of the fascination may actually stem from the fact that many people never really get beyond the fantasizing stage.

There are hundreds of websites out there that offer images and short films of girls peeing, being peed on, and subtly wetting their knickers.

This kind of mental masturbation teases but never quite satisfies the libido the way full on, person to person exploration might.

The unconscious issues which keep the fantasy highly charged may never get confronted and resolved.

But as true as all this seems to be, there is actually another reason why some people get very hooked on urine play -- there is a whole new dimensions of genital sensation that can typically only be awakened once pee phobia is chucked out the window.

First off, let's just acknowledge that a goodly number of men and women who won't "go down" on their partners might just get over themselves if they stopped thinking of the genitals as polluted by pee and not fit for the mouth.

But more to the point is the fact that many women actually report heightened sexual sensitivity when they are sexually stimulated when their bladder is partly full.

In fact, some sexologists recommend drinking extra fluid about 45 minutes before intercourse, simply to increase the woman's sensitivity during sex, especially during intercourse itself.

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